A BOOK REVIEW
“I like to believe that you would have been a young man people paid attention to and that you would have brought some good to this world that is desperately in need of help. I am proud of you, who you are, and who I think you might have been. I love you!” (a letter to the author’s son, Chapter Four)
“Dear Son: A Father’s Advice on Being a Man” is a well-written and easy-to-read book. Each chapter begins with the letters that author Dave Bruskas wished he could have given to his son if he had not lost him in infancy. You can feel his heartfelt urgency in every letter and every word of guidance.
He encourages young men (although the current track record for young men may not be impressive) to take their life seriously because they live in a broken world needing hope of Godly men.
He asks several valuable questions including: “What if your freedom is blinding you to what actually may be enslaving you? What if, in the energy and idealism of young manhood, you are in the process of losing the only thing that matters while chasing everything else?” The challenge is not to become better men but new men through Christ. It’s not just in the fleeing from bad and sin but in the pursuing of God’s best that we find abundant life.
He encourages his readers to be courageous fathers, husbands, church members, citizens, and brothers. “The hope for our cities, countries, and world lies in the hearts of young men loving and serving women and children instead of using and abusing them.” He also reminds them that they can be “perfectly and totally loved” in a broken world of imperfect fathers.
Although I don’t completely agree with the author’s thoughts and rigid statements on household financial provision and his understanding of I Timothy 5:8, I would highly recommend the rest of the book to young men, their fathers, and the mentors who want to make a difference in the lives of others God brings to their life. Tyndale House provided me a free copy of this book in exchange for this review which I freely give.